Can couples work together? Maybe.

For some couples, work is more than each partner simply going to their everyday 9-5. Many couples, in fact, own and operate businesses together. This means that they are not only spending a lot of time together. They are often together 24-7. Thus, they must strike a balance between their work and professional lives. This prevents burnout in either relationship.

This isn’t always easy to do and many couples struggle. However, it’s possible to have a successful business relationship and a loving personal life as well.

Are you are in this position, wondering how you can work and live well together? Here are six steps to follow.

1. How Can Couples Work Together? Set Boundaries First

First, it’s important to establish workday limits early on. When are you “on” and “off” of work?

These boundaries allow you to know when focus on your business and all the associated issues is appropriate. This too creates space for your relationship. To this end, it may be helpful if your business is outside of the house. You can then leave together in the morning and return in the evening. If that’s not possible and you both work from home, then setting time boundaries is particularly important.

2. Pursue Your Own Interests

Certainly, working together might make it tempting to spend your free time together too. Yet, this isn’t necessarily the best plan for a fruitful relationship in love or business.

Perhaps you like to spend your free time experimenting in the kitchen. Or your partner prefers yoga class. That’s perfectly okay! The reality is that healthy partners pursue their own interests. Doing the things you each enjoy helps you recharge to focus on work.

3. Can Couples Work Together and Disagree?

Many wonder, “how can couples work together well when facing disagreements?”

It’s hard to focus on work if you and your partner had a personal blow-up argument that morning. One trick that helps? Compartmentalize and concentrate on the needs of the business only.

Yes, you had a fight this morning. But your professional and financial success depends on your ability to put that aside and focus on work. This isn’t a call to bury your emotions, instead, prioritize your business relationship. Agree to a time to follow up and resolve the personal disagreement. Remember too, holding grudges never works in business or romantic relationships.

4. Avoid Work Discussions at Home

Another thing to consider is how work could creep into your “down-time” together.

Let’s presume that when you started on this journey together, you did agree to firm boundaries. However, let’s say that you just had a great idea to help the business grow. You just have to share it!

Wait! Is it really necessary to do that at the dinner table? Slow down and simply jot down your thoughts for later. Allow yourself the space to enjoy your time together. Hold onto the idea until you are both back in work-mode.

5. Don’t Let Work Define Your Relationship

All things considered, your romantic connection should define your relationship. Not the work.

How can couples work together if they always focus on their business? Even if there are pressing business issues, routinely commit to unplugging and checking-in.

Schedule date nights and go on adventures together. Take classes and share dreams unrelated to work. Do the things that enrich your lives but also cement your bond daily.

6. Don’t Wait to Ask for Help

If you and your partner are struggling significantly in either facet of your relationship, ask for help. A therapist who understands the tools for successful work and romantic relationships is an invaluable resource. Your therapist will help you both to set boundaries, make space for your relationship, and heal persistent tensions.

How can couples work together and still love each other? It takes communication, patience, and a strategy for success. Try following the steps above. However, if you need more support, don’t hesitate to reach out. Read more about couples counseling and contact me soon for a consultation.