There are many types of relationships. One thing they all share in common is that you can build more meaning into them. Romance, friendship, neighbors, co-workers, and more — they are all better when they are more meaningful. But how do you know when a relationship has meaning? And how can you build more?

Of course, every connection is unique. There is no one-size-fits-all approach. That said, there are many universal patterns and concepts to consider. Perhaps most importantly, a meaningful relationship involves giving and taking. It is rooted in a clear sense of balance with a willingness to adapt and grow. Let’s take a closer look now.

5 Ways to Build More Meaning Into Your Relationships

1. Seek Balance

To follow up on the above statements, it makes sense to create a two-way street. This concept covers a lot of ground, e.g.

• You and the other person feel safe sharing regardless of the situation. This interaction might be a gripe session. Just as often, one of you is reaching out to share exciting, upbeat news.
• The two of you share important, fundamental elements like beliefs, interests, and values.
• You care deeply about each other’s well-being.
• In any connection, there will be one-sided times. One person will lean on the other. The key is to view the relationship in a big-picture way.

2. Give Voice to Your Emotions and Expectations

You may view your partner to be your soul mate. Your closest friend may appear to always be on the same wavelength as you. This is wonderful but it is not a license to assume you do not have to express yourself. They cannot read your mind — and vice versa.

• Verbalize your expectations
• Don’t suppress frustration or resentment
• Learn how to give an authentic apology
• Embrace healthy conflict resolution
• Build a foundation of trust

3. Embrace the Positive Feelings

When there’s someone you really enjoy being with, you may have thoughts about them at other times. Perhaps something may happen during the day that reminds you of your friend, neighbor, lover, family member, etc. Take the time to appreciate and savor this connection. Perhaps use it as motivation to reach out just to let them know you’re thinking about them.

4. If Possible, Connect IRL

We live in complicated times. It goes without saying that virtual connections have become sometimes necessary. They have also evolved to embody deeper meaning. Even so, whenever possible, connect with others in “real life.” If this is never or rarely possible, then strive to deepen your digital interactions. A “like” is not as meaningful as a heartfelt message. Always look for ways to avoid slipping into the superficial.

5. Commit

Do the work. Pay close attention. Remember milestones. Ask the people in your life what they like and need and expect. Perhaps most of all, make time for others. Sure, everyone is busy and multi-tasking. But, as Gandhi declared, action expresses priorities. Make the people in your life a priority. Demonstrate this status by putting in the time, effort, and energy into the relationship. Meaningfulness thrives where commitment exists.

Easier Said Than Done

Creating meaningful relationships is easier said than done. There are many obstacles in today’s divided and digital culture. No one should be expected to have it all figured out. That’s why therapy is such an ideal option. You may be seeking to make new connections or to deepen your existing relationships (or both). It makes a world of difference to have a weekly safe space to work through the patterns and issues that shape your behaviors and perceptions. In addition, therapy is another opportunity to cultivate a meaningful bond. Please read more about couples counseling and reach out for a consultation today.