Sexual intimacy in a relationship is essential. While that is not the only aspect of a relationship that matters, it is definitely important. There are no hard rules as to how often a couple should have sex because this will differ from couple to couple. Feeling close to your partner in intimate ways is a healthy sign that the relationship is strong. It’s physically satisfying and makes a strong foundation for a relationship.

For some couples, their sex life loses its spark over time. Eventually, this could lead to a sexless marriage. It might be surprising to hear, but this is something that a lot of marriages go through at some point. If you are worried about your intimacy level with your partner, here are a few tips to fix a sexless marriage.

What You Need To Know About Fixing A Sexless Marriage

Don’t Avoid The Conversation

If you aren’t happy with your sex life or lack thereof, you may feel uncomfortable bringing it up. However, nothing can be resolved in life if it isn’t fully addressed. It’s not always easy to bring up sex in a marriage. You don’t want to upset your partner, but it isn’t a topic that should be avoided. Actually, you may even doubt whether or not they care or notice; but chances are, they do. You may never know that, though, if you don’t at least bring up your concerns.

Are You Intimate In Other Ways?

There are more ways to be intimate than just the physical aspects. Take a look at how emotionally connected you feel to your spouse. If you don’t feel a strong connection to them, that could trickle into the bedroom and cause issues.

There are always ways to fix and repair bonds. Especially when it comes to intimacy and feeling close to one another. As relationships evolve and change, it’s only natural that you may not be close to one another like you once were. Remember that even though your relationship may change over time, that doesn’t mean you can’t adjust to accommodate these changes.

Reconnect Emotionally

Sometimes, to repair sexual intimacy, you need to start with the foundation of your relationship—friendship. Spend time with one another in meaningful ways. Drink coffee in the morning together and talk about what you have going on that day. At night, just lay on the couch, unwind, and check their stress levels. Having kids together can make this challenging, but you can still find small moments just to let each other know you care.

Show Appreciation

The longer a relationship goes on, the more we seem to take it for granted. The little things we used to thank our spouse for don’t get said anymore. In a relationship, it’s essential to always thank one another, even if they do something small, like taking out the garbage. When you stop showing appreciation for your partner, it can definitely affect your sex life. Not feeling appreciated by someone can make you put your guard up and try to distance yourself from them.

Couples Counseling Can Help Improve Your Sexual Intimacy

There is nothing wrong with admitting that you need help with your relationship. It may seem taboo or scary to talk about, but sex is an important aspect of all marriages. While you may be hesitant to reach out to someone for support, it can be the best thing to happen to your marriage.

As a therapist, I am well versed in how to help repair marriages, emotional connection, and, yes, help you improve your intimacy. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help through couples counseling when you are ready.