Be Your Own Cheerleader: Take These Steps to Change from Negative to Positive Self-Talk

What was that you said in the mirror this morning? Really? You said that about your own face and body? Those sound like fighting words… Who was it that bullied you with put-downs after that slip up at work today? You? How cruel! Bet you’d never let anyone talk to your loved ones that way……

Overcome Anxiety: Stop Looking at Life Through Anxiety’s Glasses & See Clearly Again

We all know the idiom “looking through rose-colored glasses.” It means you’re looking at someone or something in an idealistic – or unduly favorable – way. It means you’ve lost your objectivity. Your vision has become distorted. Visual distortion can also happen when you look at your life through anxiety’s glasses. Instead of rose-colored, these…

Marriage Problems? Honestly Examine What YOU Bring to the Relationship

A marriage involves two people – two individuals. When problems arise in a marriage, those two individuals all too often jump at quickly assigning blame. Most likely, though, both of them contributed to their relationship problems. Of course, they are both responsible for solving their marriage problems. But blaming and taking responsibility are two entirely…

Managing Depression: First Step – Develop a Healthy Self-Care Routine

Depression is a state of perceived powerlessness, worthlessness, and perpetual low mood. It’s hard to do anything. You may feel too sluggish or sick to make a change. There’s no joy of anticipation. No motivation or inspiration. No get up and go. And so what if you’re managing depression well enough to leave your bedroom? Much of…

What’s the Difference Between Doing What You Like & Liking What You Do?

It’s not unusual for people in large cities to juggle multiple jobs. They brave the demands; the pressure; the hectic, mind-numbing drudgery; the abuse and disrespect; and the excruciatingly long work days… for what? In pursuit of their holy grail – their dream career. Their true calling. Their passion. When you’re doing what you like,…

Silence (A Lack of Noise Pollution) IS Golden–Especially for Your Brain

Noise pollution is real. Seriously. Have you ever gone in search of silence? How long did you have to look? Did you ever find a noiseless place, without people chatting or laughing or talking too loudly on their phones? Unaccompanied by construction machines grinding or technology buzzing? Devoid of traffic noise, airplane thunder, or piped-in…

Why Stepping Past That Uncomfortable Feeling is the Key to a Better Life

Discomfort. It’s that feeling we get when we step outside of our comfort zone. When we move beyond the constraint of activities and opportunities that we feel comfortable with. The thing is, most of us don’t like that uncomfortable feeling. In fact, avoiding it is part of human nature – a weakness that urges us…

Excessive Worrying is Worthless – Take These Steps to Control It

You’ve got things to do. This moment, right now, needs you to get up and get in it. Get with it. Go for it. But you aren’t. Why? Perhaps it’s because you can’t seem to move forward without questioning the moment, mercilessly rehashing the past, or second-guessing whether you’re ready for what lies ahead. You’re worried….

9 Ways to Accept Your Past, Enjoy the Present, and Fall in Love with Life Again

Life is calling. Real, fully, realized life. Do you want to answer that call? If your heart says, “Yes!” but the past keeps you quiet, stuck, and longing for change, you need a new plan. Now. Here’s where to start: Phase One: Accept your past It’s time to find the freedom you crave…(hint* it’s not…

Pessimists: The Key to Optimism and a Better Life is Your Self-Talk. Why?

Optimism. An effervescent cheerful spirit. Always looking for the good in everything. Seeing the glass half full, instead of half empty. Sounds really good – on the surface. Right? Opponents of positive thinking have argued that it’s simply another way of hiding from reality. They contend that it’s just a soft and fluffy concept that…